I was at my mastermind retreat in California. Being that I live in New Jersey I found myself very awake and productive at 5:00 in the morning and went to the gym at 5:45.
After my workout, I was standing by the water cooler and looked out the window. There was a beautiful sunrise. One of the hotel attendants was next to me and I said, “Look at the beautiful sunrise.” She was courteous to me, but yet I could see in her eyes that she assumed that I wanted something from her or was complaining about something. I said, “Everything is okay, I just don’t want you to miss the good stuff.”
So often in our day-to-day lives we end up focused on the things that are not going well, on what we still have to do or more often, what we think we’ll never get around to doing. We spend our day beating ourselves up instead of paying attention to what is going right.
These past couple of months I’ve been in a bit of a rut. Sure things are going okay. I have great clients and I enjoy what I’m doing. Technically things were going well, yet I kept thinking about what wasn’t going well, the things I wasn’t doing or hadn’t summoned up my energy to do. In my own rut I lost sight of the all the wonderful things going on in my life…the beautiful sunrise that exists around me every day.
Some parts of my sunrise are personal. My daughter got into her first choice college early decision (she’s going to Lehigh University, it’s my alma mater!). My sons are growing up into beautiful, smart, sensitive young men. I have an incredibly supportive husband who will happily support me in any way that I need support and often knows what support I need before I do. Oh, and because I was up and at the gym early I ran two miles on the treadmill (I’m not much of a treadmill runner, that’s quite an accomplishment for me!)
Beyond that my business is doing great. My revenues were up over 110% from 2010. My clients are growing and doing things in their businesses and lives that are incredible. I am confident that the work I do brings my clients and other people that I interact with value.
By moving my focus from the things that weren’t doing exactly what I wanted them to do, to areas that were going well I put a smile on my face. That smile alone is enough to help me turn the rut around.
What you focus on is well…what you focus on. You get to choose. Will you focus on the sunrise and the good that surrounds you or on the problems? Choose the good and the problems become much smaller in comparison and are much easier to manage.
I’m not sure why it’s easy to forget the beauty and wonder around you. Why is it so easy to downplay all that you have accomplished on the road to where you are? We need to force ourselves to stop and take the good in. The attendant at the hotel was so focused on her job and what she had yet to do that when I spoke to her she assumed that something was wrong. I forced her to shift her focus to see the sunrise. It brightened my day, I hope it brightened hers too.
My suggestion for you is to take a moment and think. What is working well for you in your business and life? What things have you allowed yourself to gloss over or take for granted? What things have you accomplished that you’re not taking the time to acknowledge? Now that you know what’s going well, feel free to share your sunrises here and use it as inspiration for your day.