Have you ever had one of those days – or weeks – that you start wondering whether we’re in mercury retrograde, a full moon, or has everybody just lost their minds?
I had a couple of days last week that I was wondering:
- Is the Universe trying to tell me something
- Is everybody smoking crack
- Is it a full moon
- Have I done something wrong and karma is getting me back
One client wants to work this way, another wants to work that way. My headphones wouldn’t function after I installed a program and after uninstalling and restarting my computer yet again, I figured out I had the videos muted on YouTube. I couldn’t find my insurance card for a grueling couple of hours, but found it in another purse. I was going to a meeting the following day for parents who have lost children and was stressing about that. There was a 36-hour period that I’d like to just forget.
I was Skyping with my online business manager about getting a JOB (jokingly…okay, half-jokingly) on my phone and use Swype (a really neat tool that I can just glide my finger over letters and the word appears). I typed, “it’d be routine” but what came up was “it’d be torture”. Amazing how close the letters for routine and torture are. So then I started thinking about routine vs. torture.
Some people love routine and if they’re not doing the same thing day in and day out, it’s torture! Other people love change and if they had to do the same thing day in and day, it’d be torture!
We are all different and it depends on what our personality is. For me, I enjoy a combination of predictability and challenges. I love being an entrepreneur and working with my clients because it’s something different every day. While some of what I do is routine, it’s different by client. So generally I have that nice balance of both.
But what can you do when you feel like you’re being tortured by what you normally love? A couple of things:
- For as difficult as it may be, amid the chaos, just step back. Step away from the computer, the office, the technical gadget – whatever it is that’s causing you stress – and disengage. Stop thinking “I have to get this done right now!” Or “If I try THIS maybe it’ll work” all while gnashing your teeth. Go get a drink of water, have a healthy snack, walk to the mailbox, swap a load of laundry. Just do something to get out of the trap and let your brain and your emotions settle. Invariably, when you come back you will feel more relaxed and in better control. Usually you’ll have a different perspective of the situation and a solution will pop into your brain effortlessly.
- If it’s been a challenging day, all day long, then you really need to make an effort to relax that evening. I mean, make an honest effort to get off the computer (the laptop, too) and get out of the office. Better yet, get out of the house. Do something – anything – relaxing. Take a long, hot soak in a bubble bath. I might brush my horses or take a little ride. Tend to the vegetable garden, weed the flower bed. Watch a favorite TV show. Again, I know it’s difficult to give yourself permission to chill, but I know you’ll feel so much better.
- Lastly, before going to bed, I spend a few minutes thinking about the things for which I am grateful. Every tiny little thing you can think of, acknowledge them. Remind yourself that tomorrow is a new day, you can start fresh, disagreements and techno-problems will be dissolved, and everything will be okay. When I do this, it allows me to sleep better, also, so I can start fresh the next day.
What do you do when you have a bad day? I’d like to know (maybe I can use your tips too!)