I’m extremely fortunate in that my husband has done the cooking for years and has always helped with chores. However, recently as I’ve become more involved with my growing business, my husband has completely taken over the laundry, cleaning and shopping.
My friend said she didn’t like how her husband folded laundry, so it was something she always did. The first thought that popped into my head was “Get over it!”
Just as quickly as the thought formed, I realized I used to feel the same exact way. I used to refold all the laundry, too. Then one day when I was pressed for time I caught myself doing it and asked myself why. Did it really matter that hubby didn’t match up all the corners on the towels or sheets? Did it matter that he has a tendency to put the folded edges in when he stacks them? Or that he folds shirts and pants the opposite of how I do? I mean, in the scope of everything that’s important, did it REALLY matter how he folded laundry?
At that moment, I “got over it”. I figured if I let him fold everything, eventually it will all be the same way in the closets and the drawers and I could just go with the flow. Is it that big of a deal when I grab a towel from the closet it usually unfolds as I pull it out? Nah.
So I gently told my acquaintance, “Get over it.”
My point is that when we entrust a task to another person and allow them to be completely responsible for it, as long as it gets done, for the most part it doesn’t matter HOW they accomplished it. In my case the laundry is being washed, dried, folded and put away and that’s the ultimate goal anyway.
My advice to you is that when you finally decide to let go of a task that you’ve been doing for a long time, something you do without even thinking about it because it’s just second nature, let it go. Sure, give advice along with it, maybe some pointers and reasons behind why you’ve “always done it this way”. However, remember that advice is just a suggestion and if the task-taker can still accomplish the job doing it in a way that works better for them and still comes out with the correct results, get over it.
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